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  • Should You be Vocal with Your Goals?

    Whether you’re trying to make more time for yourself, cutting back on alcohol or wanting to set up a new business, one thing you’ll probably find yourself questioning is whether or not you should tell your friends and family about your new goals.


    On the one hand, telling friends about your goals is a great conversation topic. It’s fun to share things that are going on in our lives and they may be able to advise you – especially if they have gone through the same. You can be rest assured that by having your friends and family in your corner, that they will not inadvertently make your life more difficult. This may involve reconsidering offering you a cigarette or inviting you to restaurants if you’re trying to lose weight.

    On the other hand, there are disadvantages of sharing your goals. Interestingly, studies show that telling others of your goals can sometimes make you less likely to achieve them. The issue here is that when you tell somebody about your goal, you’ll get a rush of feel-good hormones which can sometimes feel as though you’ve already achieved it. If you had been getting social pressure from your friends beforehand, this may go. In this case, sharing goals can actually be destructive!

    So, what should you do?

    The answer really depends on the nature of the goal. The best way to judge whether or not you should be vocal with your goals is to weigh up the pros and cons and decide which which is the most suitable route towards helping you accomplish your goal.

    For instance, if your aim is to try and make more time and space for yourself – then this is something you should definitely tell your friends and family. Why, you ask? Because a lot of the stress will likely have unintentionally been coming from them, and they may offer to help take the pressure away from you in some ways!

    If you find yourself wanting to change and need support, contact us at Birmingham Counselling Services on 0121 314 9903 and see how Counselling, Therapy and our Workshops could benefit you.

    Edited by Samantha Turner
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