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Self esteem is what you think of yourself, physically, mentally, and emotionally. We all have different views of ourselves and keeping a positive outlook will benefit us more than a negative one. Many people suffer from low self esteem and would benefit from an improved self-image. And the only person who can build up – or tear down – your self esteem is you. Other individuals may aid or undermine the process, but the final assessment is yours.
People have low esteem for a variety of reasons. Some suffer from poor body image and focus on those aspects of their physical appearance which they dislike. Others have emotional issues that have caused them to feel themselves unworthy of any praise. Babies are not born with low self esteem so whatever the reason yours has faltered, the key to building it up again is to find the root of the problem. Think of self esteem like a house – if you build a stunning house on a poor foundation, the entire structure will be unstable.
However, if you take steps to ensure the foundation is strong and capable of supporting anything, the process may be slow, but the house of your self esteem will be built soundly and securely.
Low self esteem can lead people to withdraw from social contact, so that they look for help in books. The number of relevant volumes on the market is phenomenal, and you are sure to find one on a topic that deals with your specific issues. Check out your local library or book shop and explore their “self help” section for a book that you may find helpful. It is unlikely you will find the answers to all your problems in one book, but it could be helpful to know that other people have similar worries and you are not alone. And the bibliography will give the titles of other relevant publications.
Alternatively, or additionally, you may choose to seek direct professional help in your quest to improve your self image and confidence. Speaking to a qualified individual can help you identify the root of your problem and the path you might take for the rebuilding process. Perhaps your problem dates from childhood, or maybe it has developed more recently, following a failed relationship or the loss of a job. Whatever the case, a professional will be able to help you decide on your path to improvement.
A major element of low self esteem is negativity. Negative comments can invade your confidence and negative thoughts cause your self esteem to crumble. If you find yourself surrounded by negative people or in a negative situation, try to remedy the problem. (This is easier said than done, we know.) Often, an individual in a abusive relationship has their self esteem shattered when a supposed loved one constantly berates them and questions their worth. Similarly, a negative workplace environment can lower your self esteem, with colleagues or bosses finding fault with your work. Perhaps you have a friend who is consistently negative with all surrounding him or her. Whatever the source, distancing yourself from the negativity will help you maintain your confidence and regain your self esteem. If you are going through a rough time in your personal life, you might wish to join a support group. Similarly, there are groups available for individuals with self image issues. These groups will allow you to meet other individuals with similar problems and over time will provide a forum for you to share your hopes and achievements.
However you choose to begin building your self esteem, start today! Be thorough and consistent with the process and be aware that it will not happen overnight. You should not become impatient or despondent if you find your self esteem slipping a bit now and then. This is normal, as our paths through life are never totally regular.
Remember, you are an important and worthy person. Treat yourself as one.