Dating is a lot like watching previews for the new romantic movie that everyone is calling ‘the film of a lifetime’.
Scenes detail a world of possibilities, intriguing you and your partner whilst seductive music fills the theatre and makes the emotions soar in anticipation. You watch beautiful people pledging their undying love for each other in front of family and friends. They hold hands across a candle lit dinner and walk along sun drenched beaches. You decide that this is the movie for you.
However, when you pay to go see the entire movie, all it not what it first appeared. Upon returning from their honeymoon they discover that without the bronzed tans, expensive dinners or excitement, the reality of their everyday life isn’t what they were expecting. They find they were blindly drawn to the idea of a life of love and passion without realizing the partner sat across from them is not the one they want to spend the rest of their life with. What a mess.
The dating preview failed to teach what was to come as the relationship progressed. During the dating period you actively seek ways to keep your partner happy and to have fun together. Marriage can be this too, but only if both of you engage in trying to do this. This is much harder to maintain simply because marriage is forever.
When thinking about choosing your lifetime partner, take time. There is no rush. Pause and think about these next 6 things:
Love is a powerful emotion and working through the prospect of marriage can be challenging. Some couples find that talking things through in a calm, confidential environment can really help. If you feel this might be helpful for you get in touch with Birmingham Counseling Services at: http://birminghamcounsellingservices.co.uk/