The very first step is to accept yourself lovingly. There are things about us we cannot change and no-one in the world is perfect, so why shed tears over your perceived imperfections? This is how we are – all imperfect in our different ways! We might have a quality that someone else lacks and wants and others might be endowed with the qualities we cannot find in ourselves.
This incompleteness encourages us go out and seek companions who will make us feel loved, wanted and complete. What a great feeling! Would we experience it if we were inside a cocoon of perfection? Never! So accept yourself the way you are. Free your mind of the heavy baggage of unnecessary worries and you will instantly feel lighter and more cheerful.
How long has it been since you last went for a walk somewhere you loved as a child? How long since you walked hand in hand with your friend to the bakery and tossed a coin to decide what to buy? These might seem very simple things but these same simple things can accumulate and add to our feelings of confidence and fulfilment. If we look at it through these small things life is actually quite simple. What might be difficult is hanging on to the simplicity. Just as small drops of water make up the oceans, the little things you enjoy doing have the capability to turn you into a storehouse of wellbeing. When you were born and as a small child you did not doubt yourself or your ability to achieve what you wanted. However, in the process of growing up you forgot what you were aiming for, what you liked and what you enjoyed. Many adults who feel like breaking free are so tied up in their day-to-day responsibilities that it seems impossible for them to spare even 10 minutes to reflect on their lives, their direction, their dreams and their goals. It’s our responsibility to clear away whatever prevents us from listening to our innermost needs and dreams, so find some time to do what you enjoy. If you enjoy an activity it means that you have an aptitude for it, although you may not realize it.
Birds of a feather flock together. Find people you enjoy being with. They will be on your wavelength and the energy flow between you will be straightforward and natural. Life is easier when you are among people you can relate to easily. They understand you and you understand them, creating conditions for positive conversations. A good conversation is healthy exercise and meets an important need of our mind. We all want our ideas to be heard and appreciated and good company provides the opportunity.
The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step. The idea is to begin with that small single step which can then develop into giant strides. Learn to do the work at hand rather than overwhelming yourself by looking at the whole of a mammoth task. The only way to do something is to Go For It, but size matters. No matter how small the progress, focus on completing the next step successfully even though it’s a small task. Looking at a series of big uncompleted tasks is a sure way to low self-esteem and undermined confidence. Break the big task into a list of small tasks. Tick off each job successfully completed. A completed task, no matter how small, gives us a sense of achievement that boosts our confidence and equips us with more energy to try a bigger task.